In
order to really make change and increase productivity we need to have
compassion and be Mindful about ourselves, others, our interactions and the
situation. Making money and being
successful can, contrary to come opinions, be possible without exploiting
others.
What
are your beliefs about money? What did
your parents/carers express about money when you were a child? If they were discussing money, what would
they be saying? What feelings would you
be picking up about their situation at that time? What are the phrases you heard from them
about money?
For
many of us these phrases may well be negative or self-negating. We pick up messages such as “People like us
won’t be able to be rich”, “There’s an ‘us’ and ‘them’ and ‘they’ have and ‘we’
don’t/won’t have”, “Life is hard, and we have to fight it” etc. These messages go into our sub-conscious,
remain there and we unknowingly live by them.
Imagine this picture: You are highly successful and go to see your parents. They notice your new car and ask you about
it. What do their facial expressions
say? What do you pick up from them about
success and wealth? For example we might keep
ourselves from being successful in order to belong in a family that might not
accept us if we were successful.
Alternatively,
some people are financially independent and have been acculturated into success
and do see others as “Human Capital” or “Human Resources” and treat other
people accordingly. These people can
then reinforce any negative frames of reference we have about wealth and
success. They appear arrogant,
controlling and selfish. However, not
everyone who has money and who is successful is this way. We tend to notice those people who reinforce
our negative beliefs and this can keep us stuck.
·
Who
could you look to that would give you positive permissions to be wealthy and
successful?
·
If
you believed you could be successful how would you behave?
·
How
would this effect your creativity and ideas about what was possible and what
was not?
·
How
would this affect your levels of confidence and self-worth?
·
How
would this affect your view of life in general?
So,
explore your beliefs and check how they affect you today. Are you actually really being Mindful, i.e.
in the present moment, or are you operating from out-dated past messages? In
short, be “Human Kind”, be compassionate to self and others - and productivity
is still likely to increase!
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