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Friday 10 August 2012
Tuesday 19 June 2012
Transforming Human Capital & Human Resources to Human Kind
I
just read something that referred to the workforce as “Human Capital”. When we do this we reinforce previous
outdated beliefs about the lazy uneducated workforce that require managing and
motivating. The terminology “capital”
and “resources” imply that people are there for productivity and are thus
objectified and dehumanized.
In
order to really make change and increase productivity we need to have
compassion and be Mindful about ourselves, others, our interactions and the
situation. Making money and being
successful can, contrary to come opinions, be possible without exploiting
others.
What
are your beliefs about money? What did
your parents/carers express about money when you were a child? If they were discussing money, what would
they be saying? What feelings would you
be picking up about their situation at that time? What are the phrases you heard from them
about money?
For
many of us these phrases may well be negative or self-negating. We pick up messages such as “People like us
won’t be able to be rich”, “There’s an ‘us’ and ‘them’ and ‘they’ have and ‘we’
don’t/won’t have”, “Life is hard, and we have to fight it” etc. These messages go into our sub-conscious,
remain there and we unknowingly live by them.
Imagine this picture: You are highly successful and go to see your parents. They notice your new car and ask you about
it. What do their facial expressions
say? What do you pick up from them about
success and wealth? For example we might keep
ourselves from being successful in order to belong in a family that might not
accept us if we were successful.
Alternatively,
some people are financially independent and have been acculturated into success
and do see others as “Human Capital” or “Human Resources” and treat other
people accordingly. These people can
then reinforce any negative frames of reference we have about wealth and
success. They appear arrogant,
controlling and selfish. However, not
everyone who has money and who is successful is this way. We tend to notice those people who reinforce
our negative beliefs and this can keep us stuck.
·
Who
could you look to that would give you positive permissions to be wealthy and
successful?
·
If
you believed you could be successful how would you behave?
·
How
would this effect your creativity and ideas about what was possible and what
was not?
·
How
would this affect your levels of confidence and self-worth?
·
How
would this affect your view of life in general?
So,
explore your beliefs and check how they affect you today. Are you actually really being Mindful, i.e.
in the present moment, or are you operating from out-dated past messages? In
short, be “Human Kind”, be compassionate to self and others - and productivity
is still likely to increase!
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website for our open workshops on Transactional Analysis. Contact us now about courses, coaching and
supervision. Buy our latest book,
“Working Together, Organizational Transactional Analysis and Business
Performance”. Book Anita Mountain as a speaker for your next
event.
Wednesday 16 May 2012
Working with Narcissism
Narcissism
is an over-inflated view of oneself and the belief that you are more special
than anyone else. There may also be a
group of other people with whom they identify that help to boost the ego.
Take a
look at some of the discussion sites, instead of listening to each other people
are often out to prove themselves through statements such as “I’m saying
something that is very radical”, or
“When I’m talking with high powered
people”. There is a sense that rather than dialogue the person with narcissistic
qualities is taking part in order to prove they have something special to offer
the masses.
Narcissistic
people get followers. As long as those
followers do just that i.e. “follow”, they will be accepted. However, as soon as the symbiosis is broken
then they are likely to be “ex-communicated” and the “leader” will play such
games as “Now I’ve got you”.
Narcissism
is on the increase and adverts play into the narcissistic culture, appealing to
those who want to look younger, be free etc. all of which are on offer through a
particular product such as botox.
Very
often narcissism is confused with charisma and self-promotion. There is a difference between being confident
and knowing what your “field of genius is” and believing that you are better
than others. When talking about OKness one Transactional Analyst theorist (White T) said that
those who are narcissistic come from the position of I’m OK and You’re
irrelevant! Of course, they can also
come from I’m OK and You’re not OK. What
we must remember is that there is a fragility of the self, even though it
doesn’t seem like it.
These
days there is greater competition alongside which is the breakdown of the
social contract e.g. for organizational pensions, health plans etc. Because of
the scarcity of jobs the potential, and current, workforce is expected to be
self-promoting. The issue is how to
remain humble and yet be confident about your “field of genius”.
We
need to remember that those who show narcissistic behaviour do so because of
early “wounding”. This can happen
through being over-indulged of even by being ignored. The workplace is not there to “cure”
individuals. However, it is important
for people to recognise the behaviours of narcissism and ensure that symbiosis
does not occur as this will fuel the narcissistic fire and can be detrimental
to the organizational culture and the sense of safety.
- Do you think narcissism is on the increase?
- Do you think someone with a narcissistic personality is good for an organisation?
We
will be facilitating a workshop on personality types and in particular on
narcissism on 14/15/16 March, 2013.
Register now for our Developmental/Organizational Transactional Analysis
programme. Go to: www.mountain-associates.co.uk/orgta_topics1213.html
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Business and Executive Coach Summit
– sign up now
Buy
our book: Working Together,
Organizational Transactional Analysis and Business Performance, published by
Gower.
Monday 30 April 2012
The Coaching Contract
When receiving a coaching commission it is important to
obtain a clear contract, not only with the person who is to be coached but with
all those involved in the commission. This
could include their manager, finance director, etc. The reason for this is that the contract
needs to be agreed with all stakeholders so that there are no difficulties
later on.
This contracting session needs to cover the following areas:
Professional:
Ø
What are the outcomes required from the work?
§
By the commissioning agent/other stakeholds
§
By the coaching client
Ø
Are these measureable, managable and
motivational?*
Ø
Your competency and areas of responsibility
Ø
Confidentiality
Ø
The coaching client’s areas of responsibility
Psychological:
Ø
What might be any unspoken agenda?
Ø
What might you be being asked for that you might
not be able/willing to deliver?
Ø
What might the coaching client be expected to
achieve that is not within their role, remit or the coaching remit
Administrative:
Ø
To whom should invoices to sent?
Ø
Frequency
Ø
Where the coaching will take place
Ø
Frequency
Ø
Cancellation/postponement/late arrival for
session details
*Measureable, manageable and motivational means that there needs to be some detail here
to ensure evaluation of the coaching is possible. For example, it may be that everyone agrees
that the person being coached needs to be “more confident” when managing and
leading others. Questions here need to
include:
§
How will you know and how will others know that
you are “more” confident i.e. how will you measure more? What will you being doing differently?
§
From the stakeholder’s perspective, what
different behaviour would they like to see etc.
Problems and difficulties later on down the line often occur
because there has been a lack of clarity early on in the contracting
process. Take a look at the chapter on
contracting in our book Working Together,
Organizational Transactional Analysis and Business Performance, published
by Gower in 2011.
On reflection are the contracts you make sufficiently detailed? What will you do to improve your contracting process?
On reflection are the contracts you make sufficiently detailed? What will you do to improve your contracting process?
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Thursday 22 March 2012
Getting In Your Own Way
Our
beliefs can keep us from achieving what we want to achieve. How many times do you say to yourself:
Ø
I
won’t be able to do that
Ø
People
like me don’t make it
Ø
I
didn’t get a degree so I’m not intelligent enough to…..
Our
thoughts prevent us from getting where we want to be. These self-limiting beliefs are just that –
beliefs. However, we act as if they are
facts and live our lives by them.
Other
beliefs include things like:
Ø
If
I enjoy myself today something awful will happen
Ø
I
can’t do that until I’ve done ……. (e.g. all the work)
Ø
I
tried that before and it didn’t work then and so I won’t bother again
Ø
I
did succeed in doing………… but it wasn’t worth it
Ø
I
did get there but now I see I that I need to be moving on to the next goal (the
outcome of which is dissatisfaction)
These
beliefs are all part of our script. The
“script” in Transactional Analysis occurs when we make decisions when young,
based on limited life experience, and live our lives accordingly.
So, if
you want to progress and experience being stuck, explore your beliefs about
success. Are you allowed to be
successful? What is success to you? According to other people are you already
successful but you don’t feel it? What
do you believe would happen if you became successful? Are you “allowed” to be happy and
successful? What are you discounting
that reinforces your belief that you’re not, or can’t be, successful? What do you need to account that would help
you shift your self-limiting beliefs?
(You may need to ask people who know you about this one!).
Get in
touch and share how changing your beliefs about self, others and life, has
helped you move forward and own your success.
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our book today direct from our website, Amazon or Gower: Working Together, Organizational
Transactional Analysis and Business Performance. There’s a free download chapter on our
website: www.mountain-associates.co.uk Come to our guest workshop on Managing &
Using Emotions in Organisations on 19 April, 2012, with Olivier Montadat from Paris and our next Developmental/Organisational TA module in May on The Politics of Attachment .
See our website for further information.
Monday 20 February 2012
Making the Shift
How
often do you feel that the other person you are relating has the
upper hand in the dialogue? Perhaps your
role is new to that organisation, or your ideas don’t seem to fit in with that
culture. At such times the temptation is
to either withdraw or fight. Neither
option is really effective. Instead
here’s an idea for you.
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I
have just been facilitating a seminar for directors and shared with them this
idea which was found to be valuable.
You
are sharing your opinion about a project with someone who discounts you and
your views. They seem to misunderstand
you, your role and/or your perspective. Rather
than feeling angry or demoralised I invite you to consider this as an
educational issue and keep yourself and them okay. Then, having done a quick bit of positive internal
self-talk, go for the idea of a mini-contracting process with them. Let’s say the person you are talking with is
called Peter and you are Chris. Here’s
what it might look like:
Peter: (Discounting your and your
professional and organisational role) We’ve
got this issue sorted really. What you
are offering doesn’t really fit with our frame of reference but I’m sure we can
find a way of appeasing X/Y on this one.
Chris: Mmm,
that’s good information for me (keeping self & Peter OK). As I’m
new to this organisation/role would it be worth you taking an hour of your time
to find out what I do and the impact on (sales/culture/community/customers
etc.)? (A question that invites Peter to account rather than discount). We
could also discuss the relationship between our roles. Would that be sufficiently important for you
to put time aside? (Assessing the reality of the importance to Peter).
Peter: Well, I
guess it would.
Chris: So,
how are you fixed for …….. at ……? Shall I come here?
Peter: Yes,
that’s fine.
Chris: What
might get in the way of that meeting?
Peter:
Well, X/Y could.
Chris: Okay
then, let’s reschedule at a time when you’ll be clear of any other
pressures. When would that be? (This last
transaction helps to avoid sabotage).
This
mini-contracting process is helpful because you are asking questions that need
a “Yes” or “No” response. In reality it
is hard for someone to say “no” they’re not interested and you are also
checking that they are not going to set up a meeting then cancel it. It’s helpful if you can find something that
they need to be cognisant of which might be sales, impact, budgets etc. so that
they can see the benefits of meeting with you.
On the other hand, if they were to say “No” then at least you know where
you are and you are then free to consider a different strategy.
When
you remain in the Mindful Process you will have more thinking available. You are also more likely to hook the other
person’s Mindful Process i.e. thinking, awareness, connection (for further
details of the OK Modes Model which has Mindful at its heart see our book Working Together, Organizational
Transactional Analysis and Business Performance. Information on our website: www.mountain-associates.co.uk).
Ø
When
did this type of contracting process pay off for you?
Ø
When,
by keeping yourself and the other person OK, did you engage and enable
effective communication?
Wednesday 18 January 2012
Dare To Be Different
If you
have an idea that you are excited and passionate about then listen to your
passion. People follow people who are
passionate and if you want to be a leader then you need to take people with you
– and passion can do that. Passion does
mean being prepared to be different though.
How many people do you know that are passionate about the work that they
do, or the processes they are involved in?
Few I bet.
When
we meet people who are passionate about life, what they do, other people, we
tend to feel drawn toward them.
Therefore if you have an idea, are a leader or manager and want to move
forward, then take people with you with your passion – albeit passion with
positive processes and strategic thinking.
It is
often too easy to be put off by our own negative thinking, for example: “This will never happen to someone like me”,
or “If that worked then something awful will follow” or “Who am I to think I
can……..” It will be all too easy to find
those who act as the discouraging committee, instead, find people who will be
the encouraging committee and go for it.
If you
are someone who believes they have too much to lose by going out on a limb then
think about how you can minimise those risks and what strategies you can
use. Simple things are often the
best. Anything is possible if we think
positively and move forward. Afterall it
took 178 attempts before Eddison developed the light bulb, and he is known for
saying that he found 178 ways for the light not to work! With a positive frame of mind and his passion
he continued and was successful. The
same goes today for those who are determined to do things differently, whether
at work or in their personal lives. In
the work place others may be doing things they way they have always been done,
leading the organization to at best stagnate and at worst to decline. Do things differently, find people with whom
you can check out your ideas and go for it.
Let us
know what you have done that was different and how this led to success. Inspire
others and comment below.
For coaching, consultancy and
training contact Mountain Associates and see how we can support you and your
workforce. Our guest workshop on 19
April is Managing Emotions in the Workplace with Olivier Montadat, go to our website
for further details: www.mountain-associates.co.uk/orgta_topics
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