Using Time

Perhaps considering how to use our time to the best possible advantage might offer some solutions to stress mangement. Research (de Woet, quoted in Godefroy and Clark 1989, The Complete Time Management System,) shows that we often waste 97% of our energy undertaking tasks that are not appropriate for our performance level. Therefore this only leaves 3% which is at our skill level. Instead we need to delegate tasks to others – secretaries, assistants, colleagues, staff etc.

If we have dreams which we translate into goals and then transform these into tasks this will enable us to make decisions about whether a particular action will get us closer to our dream or further away. We can then only take work that gets us closer to our dream. Of course, eliminating all work which does not get us closer may not be possible straight away, if at all. However, we can minimise it. We just need to take one small step each day toward our dream.

It may be helpful as well to question the script issues that may be involved in the way you wish to spend your life. For some the drive is for acquisitions and material wealth, whereas for others it is about having enough to relax and enjoy themselves, meeting friends, spending time with the family. What do each of your modes say about the way they think you are to spend your life? (Take a look at our Transactional Analysis section on this web site if you would like more information on these concepts).

Celebration also needs to take place at every level (see Concepts for Thriving, Mountain, 2004), otherwise we get depleted. Time management is also about taking time out to get exercise; take care of ourselves with a massage; meet friends; meeting colleagues for mutual support time. All of which often get squeezed out, but which are necessary to obtain balance.

Being Physical!

If we trust our bodies as well as our psyche we are more likely to be in tune with ourselves. One day when doing Quigong I was interrupted. On returning to my exercise I could not remember how to start the move I had left. I did remember the previous move and started there, the next one then just flowed. If our minds don’t remember our bodies will. We need to get in touch with our physical side, listen to what it tells us and then we are more likely to know when we are becoming stressed, or if the next piece of work would push us over the top. Our bodies as well as our minds have the answers, we just need to tune in. Very often we discount our physical signs and rationalise our way into situations rather than listen and consider what our feelings – emotional and physical are telling us.

Worrying tends to effect life-balance. We worry about where we might find the money to meet our financial commitments or what we will do if we get ill and cannot work etc. To worry is to be consumed and obsessed by the question. Whereas, if we are worried about something and consider it attentively, rather than obsessively, we are likely to obtain options and perspective.

Ask yourself:

 What am I worrying about?
 Be prepared to keep asking the question. You can do this when walking, doing the garden etc.
 Follow where the question leads you. If the question changes or another arises go with that one.
 If this practice offers an answer then you can go on to the next question.

A questioning mind, rather than a worrying mind, enables life balance. Further, most of the things we every worry about never happen. If they do happen and we have worried obsessively rather than attentively we are likely to be too tired to deal with it!

We need to trust ourselves, and ensure we expect the best of ourselves and of our workplace.

How will you choose to use your time in 2008?