Know Your Own Pace

All too often we get into a pace that is not really true to us. I am sure some of you know what I mean by this. Perhaps your personal rhythm is to take your time, go for a walk at lunch time, have a 10 minute break in the mornings and afternoons and see friends in the evening. Then come the deadlines, an increase in workload, the demands of perhaps being freelance, and out goes the knowledge of your own pace.

When walking and climbing the rule is to go at the pace of the slowest person. This way the slowest is not at risk of getting over tired and everyone gets to enjoy the view. This is the same as our pace when working. Some people’s work actually improves under pressure and they can work flat out for periods of time. Others work best when they take breaks and pace themselves and in this way they can continue for longer.

The danger comes when our natural propensity is slower than those colleagues we may work with and the demand may be to catch up – even if this is our own personal demand on ourselves. In these instances it is important to talk to ourselves from the Structuring and Nurturing parts of our here and now Adult mode of behaviour, encouraging us to listen to ourselves, to our own rhythm and check if we feel we are getting out of kilter. If we find we are taking fewer breaks, no lunch, getting into “hurry up” then it is time to take stock and recalibrate. In other words it is time to take a look at the view for while and decide to do something by choice rather than by default. What are we scared of? How come we have adopted a rhythm that is not true for us? Is it the organisational culture we are in? Is it really necessary to adapt to others’ pace? What would happen if we returned to our own pace?

Once we start shifting from our own natural pace there is likely to be less thinking available as we have shifted into an Compliant Child mode as a way of getting on. In truth if we recalibrated then what would happen is that the organisation would get more from us. We would be fresh and able to think more clearly as we would be in the here and now. We would increase our creativity as we would feel safe and not driven.

So, learn to listen to yourself. Learn when and how you work best. For sure, sometimes we probably need to do things we would rather not do but when we work to our own rhythm not other people’s everyone wins.

Have a great time listening to yourself.


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